#100DaysofSelfcare: Building Your Self-Care Toolkit Pt 1.

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This my second time intentionally committing to 100 days of self-care. What I found for my first 100 days it was the simple things that were the
most profound and the hardest to do.

The most important item in my self-care toolkit is the word "No!" I like the Deborah Cox "No" (listen to Nobody's supposed to be here). "No" offers us the space to attend to personal, mental, and spiritual needs. It gives you the stillness to tap into higher self to align yourself with your divine purpose. The challenge of course is the guilt that is often accompanies the "No."
I am recovering people pleaser. Which meant I over committed to everything. I wanted to make everyone around me happy which lead to me creating unrealistic expectations. It created discord in many of my relationships because the fact is I cannot do everything. When I found more "No" I also found a happy balance of "yes." What do you need to say "No" to?
Take 5 minutes to list a few things or people you need to say "NO" to. After you have completed that list. List 3 things you have wanted or needed to do for sometime. Create a S.M.A.R.T. goal to allow you to achieve it. SMART is an acronym that you can use to guide your goal setting.

To make sure your goals are clear and reachable, each one should be:

  • Specific (simple, sensible, significant).
  • Measurable (meaningful, motivating).
  • Achievable (agreed, attainable).
  • Relevant (reasonable, realistic and resourced, results-based).
  • Time bound (time-based, time limited, time/cost limited, timely, time-sensitive).

 

1. Specific

Your goal should be clear and specific, otherwise you won't be able to focus your efforts or feel truly motivated to achieve it. When drafting your goal, try to answer the five "W" questions:

  • What do I want to accomplish?
  • Why is this goal important?
  • Who is involved?
  • Where is it located?
  • Which resources or limits are involved?

2. Measurable

It's important to have measurable goals, so that you can track your progress and stay motivated. Assessing progress helps you to stay focused, meet your deadlines, and feel the excitement of getting closer to achieving your goal.

A measurable goal should address questions such as:

  • How much?
  • How many?
  • How will I know when it is accomplished?

3. Achievable

Your goal also needs to be realistic and attainable to be successful. In other words, it should stretch your abilities but still remain possible. When you set an achievable goal, you may be able to identify previously overlooked opportunities or resources that can bring you closer to it.

An achievable goal will usually answer questions such as:

  • How can I accomplish this goal?
  • How realistic is the goal, based on other constraints, such as financial factors?

Tip:

Beware setting goals that someone else has power over. For example, "Get that promotion!" depends on who else applies, and on the recruiter's decision. But "Get the experience and training that I need to be considered for that promotion" is entirely down to you.

4. Relevant

This step is about ensuring that your goal matters to you, and that it also aligns with other relevant goals. We all need support and assistance in achieving our goals, but it's important to retain control over them. So, make sure that your plans drive everyone forward, but that you're still responsible for achieving your own goal.

A relevant goal can answer "yes" to these questions:

  • Does this seem worthwhile?
  • Is this the right time?
  • Does this match our other efforts/needs?
  • Am I the right person to reach this goal?
  • Is it applicable in the current socio-economic environment?

5. Time-bound

Every goal needs a target date, so that you have a deadline to focus on and something to work toward. This part of the SMART goal criteria helps to prevent everyday tasks from taking priority over your longer-term goals.

A time-bound goal will usually answer these questions:

  • When?
  • What can I do six months from now?
  • What can I do six weeks from now?
  • What can I do today?

 

Here are some examples of my current smart goals:

  1. For the next 30 days I will meditate a minimum of 5 minutes a day to help manage my stress.
  2. In the next 60 days I will sit down with 3 different advisors to consult me in my next steps to improve my business, as well as my physical and mental health.

What smart goals did you come up with? Share them in our Facebook and Whatsapp Group.

 

 

Sources:

https://www.mindtools.com/pages/article/smart-goals.htm

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